Recognizing that your relationship has dulled is heart breaking. Luckily there are many fun and exciting ways to spice things up again.

The speed of life is complex, exciting and wonderful, but if this is at the cost of love, then the ego has won and love has lost. In our modern world this ego can easily overtake love so we must learn to stop, really stop and be still with our beloved, to turn up. So learning the art of stillness is a major key to sustaining sacred relationships amongst this busy-ness.

One of the main reasons that both men and women want to get into a relationship is a fear of being alone. Yet, any relationship that is based on fear is destined to be a very unhappy and unfulfilling relationship. Until you can learn to enjoy your own company you will constantly find yourself getting into relationships that are or end up based on fear.

Complacency like many other common marriage problems is a bit like the plague. It's catching and it spreads, you don't hear it and you don't see it and by the time you realise what is happening the damage is done.

The heart has been discredited for too long for what it does not generate; feelings of infatuation.

As I get older, I am starting to realise that it is difficult to keep a woman happy in the bedroom. These are a few thoughts that may be worth considering.

How much space do you give to your partner/spouse? Or you are one of those who have advice on everything and who want to be with their partner at all times. Meeting your friends? Let me come with you. Going for shopping? I will also come. Going for a walk? Let me join you?

Many of us had difficult, even rough childhoods, full of ridicule, poverty, or other limitations. While we may, and do, envy other people and their seeming lack of trials, there are few we would really want to trade places with, if the facades were stripped away. And worse, attempts to get even with other people only cause us to lose traction on the slippery slope we're attempting to scale.

This Holiday Season, instead of fighting the unsettling feelings,sink into them. Remember that all transitions have wonderful moments and scary moments, and that by staying connected to your feelings, you can navigate yourself to a more fulfilling and authentic New Year.

Here is a short quiz to help pinpoint those aspects of your behavior that challenge your attraction to others; PLEASE, ANSWER THIS SHORT QUIZ SINCERELY: 1. Did one of your best relationships fizzled and ended unexpectedly this year, against your wishes? Still you don't understand what happened? 2. Have had the feeling that people avoided you or tried to leave you aside at work? 3. Very much loved people began reacting with anger and barking at you, out of the blue? 4. Feeling more isolated than before and having difficulties making new friends?