Let's face it – break ups are BAD, to say the least. There are no two ways about. I have quite a lot of really tough and smart guys who stick to a relationship just fearing the worse – a break up. And there are guys who are out of it physically, but still very much in it mentally. After all it’s a matter of the heart.

Couples often come into arguments and start fighting forgetting where they are standing. You have to be conscious of the place when you come into an argument and avoid fighting in a crowd. Couples often start arguing and then end up fighting when they are attending a party or any other family gathering. This not only creates an embarrassing atmosphere for the couples and family members but also becomes a talk of the town.

The other day I found myself 'inadvertently' eavesdropping on the conversation of some two young men. They were talking about Aids, sex and marriage.

10 situations that call for an apology, and how they can put you in the limelight

When we are children we do not yet have an identity. We learn about who we are through the mirroring that we get from our parents. It is called mirroring to describe the ability of good parents to gently hold up an imaginary mirror in front of the child until they learn to see themselves clearly without harsh judgments. If we do not get enough realistic mirroring during the years we live with them, we remain pretty clueless about who we really are.

Do you feel empty and unfulfilled? Are you using people, substances, things and activities as your source of love? Discover how to access the true Source of abundant and infinite love.

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they needed your approval. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. There is no greater existence than the life that gives more than it takes.

All our stories of the past are actually a balance of pleasure and pain. But that is not how we remember them. We want to protect ourselves, because we don’t want to admit how much we loved a person, and still do. We hold onto those stories and try to crease a life around them.

Has the passion gone out of your relationship? Is it bordering on being boring and mundane? Fix it simply now.

For those who have been divorced or separated, it can be quite a difficult transition, especially if there are kids involved. However getting back into the dating scene doesn't have to be impossible or difficult. Of course do not jump onto the scene right after a separation, and do take your time until you feel you are ready again.

Do you really want to learn how to get your ex back? Before you try here's some important things you need to think carefully about.

There are numerous challenges, circumstances, people and issues that can have both a positive and negative impact on the quality of a relationship. Here are some of the common ones that can place external demands on a relationship thereby causing it to lose some of its intimacy, integrity, passion and even interest.

Do you quiz yourself about your relationship? Do you question yourself and your partner about all the aspects of the relationships and what is satisfying and what is not? Do you work on your relationship? To have a relationship that works, one has to work.

Do you know how easy it to react instead of respond to a request from your partner? Read on for tips and strategies for how to respond to a request from your partner.

Have you noticed sometimes how some men are naturally successful with women than others and more to the point, how often have you seen a gorgeous women and thought wow how did he get her? Well let's find out how he did and how you could too

Un-communicated feelings mean squat! People don't know how you feel until you tell them how you feel. Over twenty years ago my best friend died of cancer. Randy was 41. He was successful, competent, always positive and loved and lived life to the fullest then he was gone.

Going out on a date, should be equivalent to a fun experience that people would be fond of doing. Unfortunately, due to ever-increasing incidents of date rape, especially women seem today reluctant to go out with men they barely know and even if they do are extremely afraid of opening up or letting themselves drink a glass more than usual.

Recognize your own personal tipping points in a personal relationship and how to evaluate both positive and challenging relationships.

Do your children come to you for advice? Are you proud of your children's Emotional Intelligence? Being a Conscious Parent is part of Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship, and it requires self-awareness. You must know how emotions affect you and your behaviors and beliefs before you can coach your children to be conscious of their own behaviors. Breaking the barriers between you and your child id essential. This assessment looks at how close you are to becoming a Conscious Parent.

There is nothing quite like trusting someone and finding out they've betrayed you. Now is the time to make it or break it. You choose.

We all belong to a community of one sort or another. Nursing home - Assisted living site - village or Town. How do you connect to those in your community?

Defining the soul mate relationship as opposed to any other kind of relationship is not so hard once you understand what soul mates are all about. So few people really know how to go about doing this, but it’s not as difficult as it seems.

Yes, we Black men and women have some collective concerns, a certain amount of shared pathos , arising from our shared painful past which we are daily changing to a triumphant future - but we are each something more fundamental than a cog in a Great Black Cause. I am, like you - just me.

Some of the best lessons come directly from the counseling office. Here's some of the wisdom my clients are sending you this week: 5 things to avoid, and 5 things to do in relationships.