You need to love yourself first before you love somebody else. When you are on your own you are able to understand yourself better and your relationships with others. Therefore it is very important to spend time alone without your partner. When you are alone you become the individual you that your partner loved you for.

The most important question in my mind, though, is: do we really need to have an excuse for not having sex? What does one do to avoid such a conflict of interests that is so obviously important in a relationship?

It is unbelievable how many men there are who are awe-struck when it comes to approaching and talking to women. But what I find really appalling is the fact that so many of them are laboring under some unfounded illusions about women that prevent them from making any move whatsoever. Let's examine some of these misconceptions.

Most everyone is familiar with the saying, “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.” It’s like a mantra that bride’s say as they check off the list.

It is a common thing that people who crave emotional closeness are the very people who consistently get emotional distance from others. We may not see ourselves as emotionally distant because emotional distancing takes different forms: manipulation, nagging, whining, seduction, fakeness, control, intrusion, avoidance, isolation, jumping to conclusions about other people's words and actions, etc..