Let's face it – break ups are BAD, to say the least. There are no two ways about. I have quite a lot of really tough and smart guys who stick to a relationship just fearing the worse – a break up. And there are guys who are out of it physically, but still very much in it mentally. After all it’s a matter of the heart.

And I stopped and thought about how these traditions come and stay. About how generations of children have celebrated religious heritages with bar/bat mitzvahs and christenings and baptism parties; about how American girls have Sweet Sixteen’s and how Latin girls have Quince’s. About weddings. And how these events occur just once in a lifetime. Once or twice in a family.

Anyone who has crossed over would agree to that. It’s like when we cross over even the most insignificant things start niggling us. A small comment or a lame joke usually end up in the unchartered territory. And we usually don’t want to mention that we were offended by something that didn’t feel right to us. You see all the perceptions about grown-ups ‘discussing’ their problems are a farce. We don’t ‘discuss’ anything heavier than the weather.

A relationship can not be properly built and nurtured with only one “hand”, one person. In order for a relationship to work with optimal success, there must be frequent and sufficient help and input. There must be honest non-critical and loving feedback on a continual basis.

The higher reasons for both the love you still feel and for why you attracted that person in the first place are usually not apparent on the intellectual level.

It is about time we stopped blaming out our spouses for everything that goes wrong in our lives. What a tendency we have to assign guilt to other people! Everyone makes mistakes, including us, or should I say, especially us.

Many women get angry because their men don’t give them what they need. How about understanding that it is not possible to receive from those who can't give?

The real problem with bad relationships is not that we have them because, unfortunately, most people do. The real problem of bad relationships is the amount of time we remain in the relationship when we knew long ago that we should have left and the continuing amount of time we allow ourselves to be emotionally in prison for something that was not worthwhile to begin with. This is not isolated to just women or just men. If it is isolated to any specific group, it is human beings. We all deal with the same things, although at the time we feel like we are the only person in the world to feel the type of pain and emptiness that we feel. There are endless number of tips and techniques that people offer in dealing getting over relationships and I am sure there is a time and a place for them all. There is no one thing that will make it any easier, so I would say understanding that is the first step. Although there is not one quick and easy fix, there are things that I think work better than others.

When we are in an established relationship, we quite normally have expectations of our partner. What do we do when the other person in the relationship is failing to meet our needs?

I think we can all agree that most relationships are very exciting in the beginning but if you have been in your current relationship for awhile you may have already noticed that the initial excitement you had is starting to subside and you and your partner may be settling into a dull routine.

Getting over someone you love can be very difficult, especially if you're not ready to let go. But if a relationship diminishes your self-worth, devalues you, or drains you in any way, then it's probably time to end the relationship. Here's how.

The perfect kiss will help lock you in with the man or woman of your dreams and will put you down in his / her memory banks forever! But, how do you achieve the perfect kiss? Each person has different feelings about the way they like to be kissed. A general rule for the first kiss is to be soft and brush his / her lips gently, without thrusting your tongue into your partner's mouth as if you were playing tonsil hockey.

Have you ever had a one-sided relationship with someone? Have you ever wondered what your role with another person was? Sometimes having the friend that only speaks about themselves, their interests, or what is important leaves you to feeling drained. What do you do? What do you give up to be involved with such a person?

The heart has been discredited for too long for what it does not generate; feelings of infatuation.

You really want to do something that she will never forget.

Every moment our brains are at work generating thoughts at an incredible rate of speed. What we think makes or breaks our experiences and relationships. We can fill our heads instructively rather than destructively by being more conscious and selective.

He gathered her into his strong arms, his deep brown eyes gazing lovingly into hers as he slowly lowered his lips - teasingly, provocatively - his breath baring his very soul as their lips finally joined, fusing their souls together for eternity.

The couple was walking on the sidewalk. They looked to be totally absorbed with each other. They were not speaking to each other, but a glance at them could tell that they were in deep love and were made for each other.

Many people demand respect, but how can you give respect to someone you don't know. Now the politically correct crowd will say you must treat everyone with respect.

What are the facts about infidelity?

Women can bring more love into their lives by surrendering to the idea of being surrounded by love. Valentine's Day, with its hearts and flowers, cupids and teddy bears, can either remind us of loneliness, or inspire us with possibilities for love. Choose love!

At some point or another, we have all been there. We end up in toxic relaitonships that undermine our self esteem and cause us to feel self doubt. Just thinking about how to deal with a toxic relationship can be overwhelming. However, if we break down the task into manageable steps, we can step out of what is holding us back and into a position of power.