You were happily married. May be for a while. And you split. It can be imagined irrespective of the length of a marriage, a divorce does leave immovable scars. And the mere thought of seeing someone again can be dissuading. Love is all about being vulnerable to someone – why go through it again?

Valentines Day is always the season to share and express your love to your special someone. If you have not bought him or her special gift because you have no money left in your wallet, don't get upset because you can always have one instantly.

Always make it a point whatever the argument or conflict keep the children out of it and try not to quarrel in front of them. Help them develop a positive attitude in life.

Here are key questions and answers that anyone can apply to get it right in a relationship with someone else as well as yourself.

Filler talks strength the relationship. It is fun sitting together and talking about each other. You and your family come to know about each others interest, ideas and above all what exactly each one is going through. In a way you become more of friends. Friendship is a strong relationship which brings you close to each other.

I am not talking about the abusive bully or the man with a character flaw, who possesses no compassion, is beyond feeling and has no conscience. I am talking about the frustrated man who yells at this family, makes great demands on them, seems always angry and frustrated.

Emotion is the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotions a foundation. Those emotions are so changeable.

This may come as a surprise to you. I took a while to figure this one out as well. Men like pornography.

Do you have people in your life who truly bother you in big ways? I call them our soul attachments. Some people come into our lives for many reasons and a few are certainly intended to make us pay some debts to our karma bank or to our thought patterns. They feel and look like those bugs that you want to get rid of but never succeed.

Sometimes the concept of overcoming shyness puts too much pressure on an individual and they should instead focus on feeling at ease and confident in a variety of social settings. Although most teenagers do outgrow a sense of shyness, the vestiges of it sometimes prevail into adulthood.

If you are reliable, faithful, kind, honest, stable, you are everything she is looking for. It may sound ironic, but if you sound too wonderful, it may decrease your chances with a woman.

When you were dating you carved out time for each other, no matter the pressures of everyday life. You could not fall in love without that time together. This begs the question; don’t you think to sustain that love that you must also make time for one another even now?

If you ask a child under the age of four who is their role model, the most frequent response is that of their parents or grandparents.

Most marriages that are troubled have these giver and receiver roles firmly fixed. In marriages that are happy, these roles will fluctuate between the partners regularly, depending on where the need is greatest. Where does most of your energy go during a normal day?

Is your relationship over? Learn how to get through it so you can get to the other side. Remember, what you tell yourself is everything. Learn how to change your thoughts and you'll change your life; just give yourself some time.

Psychic Readers and Healers may want to add this valuable lesson to their toolkits. Testing someone's love can be a trap that may ruin your relationship with them. Learn why this happens so that you may avoid this relationship pitfall and heal the damage such tests may have caused to you, or those whom you love.

Friendship is life's sweetest gift

After providing the list for CDs to rent and provide entertainment while you drown yourself in tears, blankets, and chocolates, here is the list of movies (no doubt a lengthier one) that you shouldn’t be getting near at.

Ah, those were the days... when it was all about stolen kisses and strolls in the moonlight. These days you'd be happy if he just stopped leaving the toilet seat up.

Have you ever wondered just what makes another family member tick? They probably wonder just the same about you! With personality profiling you can discover how to improve any relationship.

In most relationships it isn't huge issues that are causing the rift but more everyday, mundane things that can easily be remedied with a little effort. Here are a few things you can try to give your relationship a breath of fresh air.

Sex is just a physical and temporary expression of lust while lovemaking is an emotional and lasting expression of trust.

Yes, we Black men and women have some collective concerns, a certain amount of shared pathos , arising from our shared painful past which we are daily changing to a triumphant future - but we are each something more fundamental than a cog in a Great Black Cause. I am, like you - just me.

Winter is subtle. Wrapped in the season are revelations and mysteries that can transport you into dimensions you hadn’t even imagined. That’s a lot like the one you love, isn’t it?