The situation requires acceptance and forgiveness. Can you accept and forgive without dwelling on the idea that it is truly none of your business whether the other person will mend the hole that is now part of your heart?

All our stories of the past are actually a balance of pleasure and pain. But that is not how we remember them. We want to protect ourselves, because we don’t want to admit how much we loved a person, and still do. We hold onto those stories and try to crease a life around them.

What makes for a happy relationship? What makes one couple have a successful relationship while another couple flounders? Is it just luck? Why do some men get the Woman Of Their Dreams while others get stuck with controlling women? Or, frigid women? Or, manipulative women?

There may come a time (though it’s not necessary) when things may become rough in your swinging relationship. And some of these times are unavoidable, while others can be prevented.