Let's face it – break ups are BAD, to say the least. There are no two ways about. I have quite a lot of really tough and smart guys who stick to a relationship just fearing the worse – a break up. And there are guys who are out of it physically, but still very much in it mentally. After all it’s a matter of the heart.

Are you willing to be different than most. Great partners in relationships are willing. And they have a better life than most. They wake up and go to bed feeling better than the people who only make half hearted efforts towards the one they supposedly love. Mark Webb, Licensed Marriage Therapist returns with another excerpt from his bestselling book, How To Be A Great Partner.

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Intimacy is very important to keep a relationship alive and so is passion. Never feel shy to experiment to make your relationship interesting. Love in itself is interesting and to experiment more on that adds excitement, vigor and vitality. So keep experimenting.

Dating, dining, dancing, conversing with, and romancing women take a lot of energy, but I can't think of a better way to spend it. To me, it's naturally invigorating. I feel alive. It's not for the infirm. There is a specific methodology for achieving a goal: First, the goal must be specific. Secondly, it must be measurable. Last, a deadline when it must be completed. Identify resources required.

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Is your relationship healthy? Take a few minutes to read through this article and see how your relationship is doing.

Showing love to each other increases the love. If you love your spouse show it with care and affection. If somebody cares for you and considers your likes and dislikes then there is an element of love in that relationship but if that care and consideration is shown in a love relationship then it is the exact way to express love with a difference.

Experience the thrill of dancing together and the closeness to each other. These are such moments in your life that you always enjoy and cherish. They relax you from the stress in your life and give you a chance to come to close to each other.

A relationship can not be properly built and nurtured with only one “hand”, one person. In order for a relationship to work with optimal success, there must be frequent and sufficient help and input. There must be honest non-critical and loving feedback on a continual basis.

Every woman and man get motivated and empowered with the power of love, and kiss is one way to express your love. So always make sure to kiss your partner to feel motivated and loved and let your love life never fade. Remember what has been said earlier, “If you love somebody show it”. Your love is doubled. Your partner too will react to the love expressed by you.

Starting conversation with someone you have just met is sometimes difficult for the majority of us just because we are not sure of what to say. But to be confident to make the first move in starting conversation with a stranger often boosts our spirits and helps us to become more diligent and contented with ourselves.

Words have the power to move the strongest of men in the world. Let the power of words strengthen your love life. Lovers often have taken the support of words to express their love. “It’s only words and word all I have to take your heart away”, the words from a famous song that have helped many lovers to express their love, proves the power of words.

The vehemence of your feelings towards a partner who has let you down does not necessarily mean relationship is over. The opposite of love is not hate but indifference.

Granted, most men have no clue how to dress appropriately. They truly need help. I wonder why their mothers never taught them that, or perhaps, they never learned.

One of the common marriage problems, which often materialises early on in a relationship, is boredom. Couples often find that after the honeymoon period is behind them and they have settled in to married life it isn’t quite the constant bed of roses that they imagined it to be.

Lying: Obviously not a trait that one hopes for in a potential mate. Lying: A possible form of mistreatment in a relationship that can have you questioning you own sanity.

Negative attitudes, negative remarks or negative habits put the relationship at risk. One good tip that can help you have a happier relationship is avoiding things that may displease your partner. For example, if your spouse doesn't want you to come home late or gives you a time limit, make him happy by coming home on time. In turn, you will be happier and your partner will reciprocate as well because he or she has felt your love.

Friendship is life's sweetest gift

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I've talked to many men who claim that being a nice guy just doesn't work with women. In my opinion, there is a little bit of truth in this. The reason why that type of man is so appealing to women may not be so obvious though.

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This Holiday Season, instead of fighting the unsettling feelings,sink into them. Remember that all transitions have wonderful moments and scary moments, and that by staying connected to your feelings, you can navigate yourself to a more fulfilling and authentic New Year.

Some of the best lessons come directly from the counseling office. Here's some of the wisdom my clients are sending you this week: 5 things to avoid, and 5 things to do in relationships.