Let's face it – break ups are BAD, to say the least. There are no two ways about. I have quite a lot of really tough and smart guys who stick to a relationship just fearing the worse – a break up. And there are guys who are out of it physically, but still very much in it mentally. After all it’s a matter of the heart.

There is an old saying to the effect that if an event is celebrated where no friends or relatives are invited then the gods may still bless it if they deem fit, but if an occasion is celebrated without inviting any neighbor the gods too shall withhold their blessing.

A good and expansive overview of the relational dynamics between men, women, society and power that exists today. Within relational dynamics lies the key to resolving a man's inner fear and incongruencies around women and dating.

A thirty-year-old with a child is much more likely to work out a relationship than a twenty-year-old looking for an adventure. Don’t dismiss women with children. She may be a diamond in the rough.

Seventeen percent of people in America (men and women) are now meeting on the Internet. There are about 250,000 women seeking Western men for husbands at any one time.

A relationship can not be properly built and nurtured with only one “hand”, one person. In order for a relationship to work with optimal success, there must be frequent and sufficient help and input. There must be honest non-critical and loving feedback on a continual basis.

Many times we do things in life for no particular reason or occasion, we do those things because something from inside tells us to do it, as such in a relationship too love should be showed for no reason but simply the fact that you love your partner and it is the heart within us that tells to do it. Doesn’t your heart tell you to simply buy a gift for your lover when you come across something that reminds you of him or her? You gift should not necessarily be an expensive one as it is just a way to express your love and love is not big or small.

We grow in love and in relationships through our mistakes. We do not grow in isolation or in theory.

I came across a question recently. In brief the poster wanted to know how she could trust any man again. Two men one after other ditched her and the second one was very close. She wanted to know if she should try any new relationship at all or forget it.

All emotion is only half the truth, an illusion; a complete lie. Life is balanced, we distort it by projecting out opinion onto it. We interpret it with our ego and spin it left or right and therefore emotionalise it. By emotionalising things, we can make it safe. And from a love aspect, then we see where we are – out of integrity – and could bring our ego back to balance, if we chose to.

Children need a mother but a man needs a woman. Here lies the biggest conflict a woman faces, even more so than the conflict between being a mother and a professional. Of course, there are many women who can conciliate both roles with ease. Unfortunately, many cannot.

The most important question in my mind, though, is: do we really need to have an excuse for not having sex? What does one do to avoid such a conflict of interests that is so obviously important in a relationship?

In matters of love and sex, of course, as with many other things, men and women are not in the same page. Men need sex to give love; women need love to have sex.

We need to understand that, unlike us, a man is a sum of his parts; it is the components that make the whole. By that I mean that, all the various parts of his life can be split off from each other, just like a book shelf.

According to MSN Money (Sept. 2005), not counting Higher Education, which can mount to $150,000, and not counting private schools and hospital bills, a child costs $135K ($40K/year, income) ; $185K($40-70K/year income); and $270K (70K+/year, income). Children 15-17 years old are more expensive. Expensive? Mamma mia!

It’s a constant and ongoing battle in your marriage. You like to have things laid out and to be prepared for what’s coming. He doesn’t plan at all. You know you’d relax if only he’d be a little more focused, and then you could stop having these arguments. How can you get him to work with you on this? Is it even possible?

A great relationship requires intimate moments. And those moments need your full attention and compassion. If something else is engrossing your mind, then your spouse will not get the attention they deserve. Your spouse deserves to be treated with kindness and forgiveness everyday, not just when you feel like it.

I got an email from out of the blue from ICQ, which asked if I wanted to post my picture and bio on their website.I sent the info to them on a lark. Shorty, I received an email from a Ukrainian woman.

Marriage Therapist tells you 10 specific strategies you can simply and easily add to your marriage to take it to the greatest degree possible.

Curiosity doesn't always kill the cat. As Isaac Asimov wrote in his New Guide to Science, 'almost in the beginning was curiosity'. Now, relationships are as far removed from science as a Van der Graaf generator is from a blender, but the same rule applies.

The Internet has made connecting and re-connecting far easier than ever before. In fact it is now effortless, but the question I beg is should we contact old flames just because it is easy to do so? We have to think about the other person's life and the effect it may cause them before we do. This only gets more true as time goes on, your life has changed significantly, surely theirs has as well. What impact will your casual hello have on them? It could be wonderful or catastrophic.

Relationships can be so exciting at the start. It’s a time when you just can’t wait to see each other, spend every spare minute dreaming about each other and just can’t keep off the phone. Unfortunately as the relationship develops into a comfortable routine, the excitement generally recedes, the need to touch base becomes more infrequent and a period of normality sets in. For many, the excitement is in the chase and for others the feeling of commitment can become a strain, the recognition that the love of your life is only human and has their faults makes you question your judgment, and the disappearance of those little surprises can out a dampener on the whole thing.

Breaking tired routines or jazzing up your marriage can be as easy as engaging in small, simple acts. If your relationship has been a little quieter recently, try making small changes.

This Holiday Season, instead of fighting the unsettling feelings,sink into them. Remember that all transitions have wonderful moments and scary moments, and that by staying connected to your feelings, you can navigate yourself to a more fulfilling and authentic New Year.