It is a common thing that people who crave emotional closeness are the very people who consistently get emotional distance from others. We may not see ourselves as emotionally distant because emotional distancing takes different forms: manipulation, nagging, whining, seduction, fakeness, control, intrusion, avoidance, isolation, jumping to conclusions about other people's words and actions, etc..

You think you know exactly what you want in a man, right? You can probably even list the attributes, qualities and qualifications that your future husband needs in order to apply for the job of your mate. I had a three-tiered system myself.

Every moment our brains are at work generating thoughts at an incredible rate of speed. What we think makes or breaks our experiences and relationships. We can fill our heads instructively rather than destructively by being more conscious and selective.

Stress Factors on a Relationship and what to do about them