And I stopped and thought about how these traditions come and stay. About how generations of children have celebrated religious heritages with bar/bat mitzvahs and christenings and baptism parties; about how American girls have Sweet Sixteen’s and how Latin girls have Quince’s. About weddings. And how these events occur just once in a lifetime. Once or twice in a family.

A relationship can not be properly built and nurtured with only one “hand”, one person. In order for a relationship to work with optimal success, there must be frequent and sufficient help and input. There must be honest non-critical and loving feedback on a continual basis.

I came across a question recently. In brief the poster wanted to know how she could trust any man again. Two men one after other ditched her and the second one was very close. She wanted to know if she should try any new relationship at all or forget it.

Emotion is the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotions a foundation. Those emotions are so changeable.

Men complain that some women are unrealistic in their expectations and want too much. They think that, instead of wanting fancy cars and homes and credit cards and jewelry, women should be content in having a good man. They say that when women don't have these things, they complain about having a terrible life.

How do you put romance into your relationship? Real, long-lasting romance is necessary to Co-Create a conscious Relationship. If you need direction to make some romance, look at these. You may have some personal qualities to make them even more meaningful.

Many couples long to get away, but many factors interfere with taking a vacation. Children, cost, and work are only a few of the major issues couples face when planning vacations. Yet time away can be a wonderful way to rejuvenate mind, spirit, and romance.

What are the things that no man never wants to hear? Here is the code to getting any man to become puffy in your hands.

Guys serenade her by getting up in the middle of a fully crowded restaurant (not a cheap “all you can eat” type) and declaring your undying love for her in front of a bunch of “I don’t need a man to make me happy” man-hating women. Blaring “our song” outside her window in the middle of the night after you’ve had a nasty fight will get you back in the house quicker than you can say “Halle Berry”.

I think we can all agree that most relationships are very exciting in the beginning but if you have been in your current relationship for awhile you may have already noticed that the initial excitement you had is starting to subside and you and your partner may be settling into a dull routine.

Letting go can feel like jumping out of a plane without a parachute. The relationship may have ended weeks or months or years ago, yet you can't get him or her out of your mind. We want to deny the relationship has ended. Letting go allows you to close one chapter of your life and to be able to start a new one with a clean page. If you keep thinking about an ex either with love or hate or fear or find yourself comparing all your dates to a former partner you are having trouble letting go.

How can you tell if your husband or you wife is cheating on you? There is no concrete formula for finding out, but there are some important indicators that logically merit suspicion. Here are some of them:

Dating with a Ukrainian or Russian girl usually begins with cautious correspondence which lasts for a few months and is followed by a man's visit to Ukraine or Russia. Some men make haste and would prefer to invite the Ukrainian woman to their country at once so that she could see the place where she is supposed to live after the marriage. But the usual practical recommendation for a foreign man is to display curiosity and visit the possible future bride's country first. Why so? There are several reasons for doing that.

As I get older, I am starting to realise that it is difficult to keep a woman happy in the bedroom. These are a few thoughts that may be worth considering.

In Love by Design relationships it is important that there is reassurance, certainty and security. The other day, actually the other week, I had several people in my office who were not very secure in their relationship. They came in on their own. They were having difficulties in their relationship. They just didn’t feel safe and secure in their relationship.

Clear boundaries are essential to attracting the love of your life. Have you defined yours?

Breaking up is hard to do

Everyone dreaded report card day in school and if you are dreading making your own relationship report card, then you need to buckle down and study! When you rank all of the aspects of your relationship with your spouse, you want (and need!) to score in the high nineties for an A+.

Setting and keeping your boundaries and honoring the boundaries of others are among the most challenging and confusing behaviors in relationships.

You’ve set a date, cleared out the kids (if you have some), and you’re getting ready for an evening of swinging. Maybe you’ve decided to meet at your place for the fun. But what can you do to get ready?

Here is a short quiz to help pinpoint those aspects of your behavior that challenge your attraction to others; PLEASE, ANSWER THIS SHORT QUIZ SINCERELY: 1. Did one of your best relationships fizzled and ended unexpectedly this year, against your wishes? Still you don't understand what happened? 2. Have had the feeling that people avoided you or tried to leave you aside at work? 3. Very much loved people began reacting with anger and barking at you, out of the blue? 4. Feeling more isolated than before and having difficulties making new friends?

We take for granted our role in American culture, but what does it really mean to be an American? How do we define ourselves among world cultures?