You were happily married. May be for a while. And you split. It can be imagined irrespective of the length of a marriage, a divorce does leave immovable scars. And the mere thought of seeing someone again can be dissuading. Love is all about being vulnerable to someone – why go through it again?

When your birthday comes around you probably expect to get a birthday card. A lot of time and thought can be spent trying to find the perfect card. We are going to try and provide some tips to make it easier for you to find the perfect birthday card.

Here are key questions and answers that anyone can apply to get it right in a relationship with someone else as well as yourself.

All our stories of the past are actually a balance of pleasure and pain. But that is not how we remember them. We want to protect ourselves, because we don’t want to admit how much we loved a person, and still do. We hold onto those stories and try to crease a life around them.

It’s a constant and ongoing battle in your marriage. You like to have things laid out and to be prepared for what’s coming. He doesn’t plan at all. You know you’d relax if only he’d be a little more focused, and then you could stop having these arguments. How can you get him to work with you on this? Is it even possible?

There is a big difference between pain and suffering. Pain is when you cut your hand. You don’t worry about your hand if you know it will get better. Suffering is when you’re not sure that your hand will heal, and you worry about what is going to happen. In relationship, pain comes and goes, and this is normal. Suffering in relationship comes when you hold back love because you are worried about whether your relationship will survive the pain.

Do lovers wear masks in front of their beloved or is the society influencing the negative thoughts of the generation in love. As soon as you dare to leave your ex-beloved, revenge replaces love ... and sometimes, literally. What makes former lovers violent with their once-beloveds?

Guys serenade her by getting up in the middle of a fully crowded restaurant (not a cheap “all you can eat” type) and declaring your undying love for her in front of a bunch of “I don’t need a man to make me happy” man-hating women. Blaring “our song” outside her window in the middle of the night after you’ve had a nasty fight will get you back in the house quicker than you can say “Halle Berry”.

Friendship is life's sweetest gift

I think we can all agree that most relationships are very exciting in the beginning but if you have been in your current relationship for awhile you may have already noticed that the initial excitement you had is starting to subside and you and your partner may be settling into a dull routine.

The perfect kiss will help lock you in with the man or woman of your dreams and will put you down in his / her memory banks forever! But, how do you achieve the perfect kiss? Each person has different feelings about the way they like to be kissed. A general rule for the first kiss is to be soft and brush his / her lips gently, without thrusting your tongue into your partner's mouth as if you were playing tonsil hockey.

Love on the wires

Dating with a Ukrainian or Russian girl usually begins with cautious correspondence which lasts for a few months and is followed by a man's visit to Ukraine or Russia. Some men make haste and would prefer to invite the Ukrainian woman to their country at once so that she could see the place where she is supposed to live after the marriage. But the usual practical recommendation for a foreign man is to display curiosity and visit the possible future bride's country first. Why so? There are several reasons for doing that.

Relationships in the early phase of formation are guided by heart and physical attraction and needs. How many of us give a chance to our head to decide whether we will relate to a person using our head? Very few of us do that.

You can learn to cast a spell over anyone. The secrets are within your reach. All you need to do is to learn where to focus your energy and attention.

Are you plagued by annoying behavior? Well, you’re about to give your loved one a great gift! Yup, you’re going to stop doing what drives you and your partner crazy.

Everyone dreaded report card day in school and if you are dreading making your own relationship report card, then you need to buckle down and study! When you rank all of the aspects of your relationship with your spouse, you want (and need!) to score in the high nineties for an A+.

Setting and keeping your boundaries and honoring the boundaries of others are among the most challenging and confusing behaviors in relationships.

The following outlines the steps to take to influence people. You can use these steps no matter what you are trying to change their minds about.

This Holiday Season, instead of fighting the unsettling feelings,sink into them. Remember that all transitions have wonderful moments and scary moments, and that by staying connected to your feelings, you can navigate yourself to a more fulfilling and authentic New Year.

How is that that I have great and not so great relationships with different people? What is there that makes me like and be liked as well as hated (or disliked) and hateful (or despising)? Why do I recognize negative qualities in some people and positive qualities in other people?

In a good relationship, we pay compliments to each other all the time. We love receiving positive feedback and try to go out of our way to let our partner know how happy we are to be with them. But verbal remarks fade so quickly. Make them last by putting them in writing where they can be revisited later to re-trigger their positive response.