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If you have ever been in conversation with someone who was being continually interrupted, how did you feel? I guess you felt pretty devalued by their lack of focus on you, what you were saying and the issues you were discussing.In the busy lives we lead it is so difficult not to get disturbed. Here are some incidences of what you might look out for and beneath, some ideas on how you can do it differently:-Letting the phone take priority Having poor boundaries such that others disturb you whatever you would wish for Letting your boss do this to you Having an 'always open door' policy Not apologising and getting back to people if it is that urgent you must be disturbed Failing to keep appointments for one-to-ones Being distracted (checking e-mails when on the phone is typical) Talking too much Raising your own issues rather than listening fully to others There are more!What you can do to resolve this:-1. Set standards where interruptees know they must not interrupt you in such circum

with this problem. Drop your pride and be the first one to step forward towards problem resolution.

Now that you've learned these techniques it's time to approach your boss. You need to find the best time to address your boss. Do not try and solve this problem in a high emotional situation. You may need to wait till the end of the day or even end of the week until you think you can approach your boss.

What you are doing by asking for their point of view first, you are able to see things through their perception which may give you a whole new side to the story. It will help you understand and even help your boss understand why he is aggressive. Your boss will begin to feel understood by you when you actively listen which can lead to a tonne of great things such as him feeling your empathy, knowing you care, having less intense emotions, and be more willing to change. By practicing good listening skills you are using the secret of persuasion.

After your boss has made suggestions, you can then give your ideas to solve the problem. Keep calm and stay focused on resolving the problem. Ask for your boss's feedback as you suggest ideas. You are making it a joint solution which will give both of you a greater total level of satisfaction.

As you are talking, take note of the positive points your boss does show in his behavior and compliment him on these. You are attempting to keep the conversation positive as solving a problem can seem negative even though it is actually good that you are trying to remove the problem!

Using these techniques to communicate assertively will reduce your boss' aggressive behavior. You will no lon

Who Hates Boring Meetings?
I think about communication when things go wrong and often forget about sharing what is happening in business if I am on a good road. The problem is that communication within the organization should be constant and not treated as an inconvenience. I am more than guilty when it comes to staff meetings and I would rather duck out than face long boring talks. I tune out and think about my day rather than thinking about the company in general. By doing this, I was finding myself out of the loop so to speak and not really knowing the underpinnings of the problems the company was facing. I also was not aware of how and why we were winning business either. The only time I was interested is when I wanted to bring a problem to the table and get a resolution. Does any of this sound familiar? Somehow we need to change the mindset of employees and make staff meetings useful and to the point. This will mean creating an agenda ahead of the meeting (by at least one or two days) plus time allowances for items on that agenda. The agenda needs to be enforced by the meetin

It is tough having to deal with someone who abuses you and even more so when the person has extra authoritative power then you.

If the verbal and other forms of mental abuse begin to get really serious and even approach physical abuse, then the issue can become legal. I have heard that people are trying to pass legislation in an American state that disallows workplace abuse. However, unfortunately just about all laws do not take into account verbal workplace conflict so you've got to learn how to handle bullies by yourself for your own happiness and well-being.

Most people who lack the communication skills to deal with a bad boss either:

Endure the bullying and intimidation in fear thinking their job is at risk if they address their boss about the problem.
Face their boss about the problem but do so incorrectly. It's quite common for the problem to then intensify.

Enduring the Bullying

The absolute last thing you want to do when being abused by anyone is accept the abuse.

You have got to stick up for yourself in an assertive manner otherwise your confidence, happiness, and in this situation, your work will suffer. People who receive aggressive behavior that is not correctly handled have been known to develop serious physical problems such as strokes, heart attacks, suicide, migraines, escalated stress levels, insomnia, and terrifying nightmares. One person who will remain anonymous often dreamt her boss pointing a gun at employees so they would complete their work.

The first listed reaction to a bullying boss is a passive response. You forgo your own person needs while your boss happily tramples over you.

The most common reason for accepting intimidation from others is the fear of repercussions if you stick up for yourself. In a work situation and especially with someone who has authoritative power, you probably do not defend yourself in fear of losing your job. This fear I believe is real because when most people stick up for themselves, they do so in an aggressive manner causing negative results which you'll soon see more about below.

These passive people forgo their own needs, are dominated by others, and live in massive amounts of frustration as their anger is bottled up inside. They do not have the effective communication skills to address the problem thinking they must accept what happens and live with the intimidation hoping the abusive person stops bullying.

It's a win for the bully and a loss for you.

Bullying the Bully - Poorly Addressing the Problem

The second listed reaction but not limited to a bullying boss is an aggressive response. These people usually have more confidence then the passive lot and are willing to defend themselves. They see that in order to get what they want they must retaliate. It becomes fire against fire. A fight starts as the two of you take to a verbal boxing ring mentally beating out each others minds.

People may become aggressive for several reasons:

They were abused by their parents at an early age and placed under emotional trauma.
They are mentally ill. I'm not referring to a jokingly mental illness but someone who has a serious mental illness such as schizophrenia or a personality disorder.
They think the only way to stop someone else's abusive behavior is to abuse them back.
The aggression is a release of anger often caused from responding passively like the first situation. This type of behavior is otherwise known as passive-aggressive behavior where the person is frequently passive but randomly explodes their frustration and anger onto others. After the occasional and often unexpected outburst, the person sinks back to his/her passive behavior.
The person is experiencing high pressure creating stress and then aggression. This type of aggressive behavior is common in work environments.
An aggressive boss maybe trying to prove his toughness, control, discipline, or results-focus to superiors through his/her behavior.

While aggression in the workplace may create the necessary level of productivity, it is strongly related to a high turnover rate said to be an average of 1.5 years and other commitment problems such as increased days off and loss of passion in the employee towards work. It can create unproductive employees as they "hide" by staying under the radar seeking to comply yet they do nothing that stands out that could potentially bring them attention.

The aggressive communication being exchanged between two people becomes a loss for them both.

Techniques to Deal with a Bad Boss

So the question remains, how do I face an abusive boss in an assertive manner?

Depending on the situation, occasional aggressive behavior can be definitely welcomed. In order for the aggressive behavior to be successful it must be expressed appropriately and constructively. You could even say this constructive type of aggression is like assertive communication which must be your goal if you are to not respond passively like the first situation and aggressively like the second situation.

There are several assertive communication techniques you can use to stop the bullying, stop your fear, build your self-confidence, and actually create a nice working relationship with your boss. This is the power of assertive skills.

Before approaching your boss about the problem, ask yourself "What can I change in my behavior to solve the aggression?" What you are doing is owning your behavior and not blaming your boss for what you have control over. It creates personal responsibility within you and helps prevent you from blaming your problems on your boss. Sometimes analyzing yourself and solving the problem may actually stop the aggression.

You need to be calm but at the same time responsive. Once you do this first step, you will almost completely remove your aggressive communication which can also help reduce your boss' aggressive communication. Fire needs some sort of fuel to stay alight and what you are doing by being calm but responsive is you are removing psychological fuel from your boss' aggressive fire. Being calm isn't enough as it can show that you're ignoring your boss. Only being calm and not responsive hurts in showing empathy and diffusing the boss's emotions. You do not want to ignore an angry boss!

Have the right mindset of resolving the problem at hand. When faced with a difficult person it is easy to want to be only right. Acknowledge that you may need to comprise yourself to progress forward with this problem. Drop your pride and be the first one to step forward towards problem resolution.

Using these techniques to communicate assertively will reduce your boss' aggressive behavior. You will no lon

What Makes a Manager a Bad Boss: Survey Results
Do you want to avoid becoming a bad boss? Do you fear that you may already be considered a bad boss? Just want to commiserate with other people who have bad bosses? Here are thoughts about what makes a bad boss, well - bad?Survey Results from a readers survey conducted by Susan Heathfield regarding:What makes a manager a Bad Boss1. 37% reported: The Manager provides little direction. 2. 21% said The Manager micromanages or “nit-picks.” 3. 15% said, The manager belittles and puts down staff. 4. 12% said, Little or no recognition for success or hard work. 5. 8% said, The manager is indecisive and seemingly changes direction at whim.Bad bosses, in order of their frequency in the survey, do the following.Love brownnosers, tattletales, and relatives who report to them. They choose favorite employees and cover up and make excuses for the poor work of their incompetent favorites. They ignore selected people and discriminate against many employees.Fail to communicate, and may not even have, expectations, time

our boss happily tramples over you.

It's a win for the bully and a loss for you.

Bullying the Bully - Poorly Addressing the Problem

People may become aggressive for several reasons:

They were abused by their parents at an early age and placed under emotional trauma.
They are mentally ill. I'm not referring to a jokingly mental illness but someone who has a serious mental illness such as schizophrenia or a personality disorder.
They think the only way to stop someone else's abusive behavior is to abuse them back.
The aggression is a release of anger often caused from responding passively like the first situation. This type of behavior is otherwise known as passive-aggressive behavior where the person is frequently passive but randomly explodes their frustration and anger onto others. After the occasional and often unexpected outburst, the person sinks back to his/her passive behavior.
The person is experiencing high pressure creating stress and then aggression. This type of aggressive behavior is common in work environments.
An aggressive boss maybe trying to prove his toughness, control, discipline, or results-focus to superiors through his/her behavior.

The aggressive communication being exchanged between two people becomes a loss for them both.

Techniques to Deal with a Bad Boss

So the question remains, how do I face an abusive boss in an assertive manner?

Using these techniques to communicate assertively will reduce your boss' aggressive behavior. You will no lon

Small Business Marketing Tips: TV's Apprentice Continues to Show us Great Examples of Bad Marketing
I’m not much of a reality TV fan, but I must admit I’ve gotten sucked into watching The Apprentice. Perhaps it’s because as an entrepreneur I am fascinated by these seemingly intelligent people and their actions and decisions when it comes to business.Additionally, it seems more often than not the teams are given a task that involves marketing. Having been very disappointed in how the fields of marketing and advertising have typically been represented in fictional television shows, I guess I’m always hopeful reality TV will be more accurate.So the lure of reality TV and its potential for actually showing marketing in its true light captures me week in and week out. While I’ve rarely been impressed with the job done by the apprentice candidates … and I’m not alone as The Donald and Martha are rarely impressed either … these shows do provide great examples of what not to do.In this week's edition of Martha Stewart The Apprentice each team was given the task of creating a 30-second video to promote Song Airlines $99 fare from New York to Los

ey think the only way to stop someone else's abusive behavior is to abuse them back.

The aggression is a release of anger often caused from responding passively like the first situation. This type of behavior is otherwise known as passive-aggressive behavior where the person is frequently passive but randomly explodes their frustration and anger onto others. After the occasional and often unexpected outburst, the person sinks back to his/her passive behavior.

The person is experiencing high pressure creating stress and then aggression. This type of aggressive behavior is common in work environments.

An aggressive boss maybe trying to prove his toughness, control, discipline, or results-focus to superiors through his/her behavior.

The aggressive communication being exchanged between two people becomes a loss for them both.

Techniques to Deal with a Bad Boss

So the question remains, how do I face an abusive boss in an assertive manner?

Using these techniques to communicate assertively will reduce your boss' aggressive behavior. You will no lon

Create a Magic Connection with Clients, Leads, and Business Associates -- Part II
Part I of this article explored how Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) pinpoints ways to gain instant rapport with clients, leads, and business associates, and more specifically, how we can use physiology, matching and mirroring to create instant magic communication.Part II examines how NLP uses tonality and words to establish rapport.TONALITYWhile physiology accounts for 55% of communication among humans, tonality accounts for 38%. Most people have had the experience of someone saying, “I’m fine. Nothing’s wrong.” While the words on the page seem to indicate that this person doesn’t have a problem, the tone used speaks louder than the words. Without tone the words suggest that the speaker doesn’t have a problem. Consider irony and sarcasm; both are communicated through tonality. If a person says, “I’m fine. Nothings wrong,” in a pleasant voice, she creates a different meaning than if she says the same words though clinched teeth and a low angry tone, or with a flippant tone. Someone yelling “I’m not mad,” isn’t convincing. If this happens in

could even say this constructive type of aggression is like assertive communication which must be your goal if you are to not respond passively like the first situation and aggressively like the second situation.

Using these techniques to communicate assertively will reduce your boss' aggressive behavior. You will no lon

Consensus - What It Is And When To Achieve It
Tom was working hard to change the culture in his organization. He wanted to create greater collaboration, teamwork and empowerment. He envisioned an organization where people loved coming to work each day. He knew that when these things were a part of working life that productivity would sky rocket, and greater business results would flow naturally from this new culture.Since he really wanted people to have more ownership in their work and results, he felt he needed to drive more decisions through consensus. He reasoned that if he or other leaders made all the decisions, he’d never achieve the culture he hoped for.So after he explained that consensus was his goal for most decisions, people tried to reach it. They had longer meetings, more discussion, some frustration, and limited success. They seldom seemed to be reaching the nirvana that consensus was supposed to be.A bit disillusioned, Tom tried to learn more about consensus and how to achieve it. Here is what he learned . . .What Consensus IsThe dictionary def

with this problem. Drop your pride and be the first one to step forward towards problem resolution.

Using these techniques to communicate assertively will reduce your boss' aggressive behavior. You will no longer have an unproductive and unhappy working relationship. You'll develop a more productive and possibly joyful working relationship for your own good and your organization's good. Who would have thought you could have an enjoyable relationship with an aggressive boss.

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You are undecided if you should start a conventional Brick and Mortar Business in a Heavily Trafficked Mall or a Online Home Based Business. This in depth Comparison will help you decide.

The most common mistake made by Small Business owners is assuming too much of the workload themselves. They are too busy to train their employees or they simply do it faster and better themselves. These business owners have not developed the ability to share the workload without sacrificing quality and performance. This results in failure to grow the business, poor performance or outright business failure. If you want your business to achieve its potential, you must develop effective managerial skills.

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