Without co-presence ( when you are in the same room with the person you are interacting with) and focus, you will never be able to accurately read others or convey your message effectively to others.

Why? It's simple. from our head to our toes, we convey subtle messages that reveal our true inner feelings, belief

The one condition however is that this applies to your face to face encounters.

Although you can glean some sense of what others are conveying through how they say it on the phone, it's also the #1 modality for communicating lies. It's true! People lie in approximately 37% of phone conversations

Email and Instant Messaging is the weakest mode for conveying a message and although that may seem obvious, what is surprising is that people are less likely to tell a lie.

That's understandable when you consider 2 key points.

1. Recordability: There is a record of the interaction

2. Synchrony: The extra time to respond when using email makes it a lesser likely modality for lying. People tend to lie more frequently when they have to respond in real time.

The amount of time you spend where you are completely focused on the person you are interacting with is key.

This is time you spend without the distraction of taking cell phone calls, plucking away on your Blackberry, listening to your mp3, Ipod, ect.

I am referring to the time you spend when you're not multitasking and your focus is on the person you are connecting with.

Without co-presence ( when you are in the same room with the person you are interacting with) and focus, you will never be able to accurately read others or convey your message effectively to others.

Why? It's simple. from our head to our toes, we convey subtle messages that reveal our true inner feelings, beliefs

Email and Instant Messaging is the weakest mode for conveying a message and although that may seem obvious, what is surprising is that people are less likely to tell a lie.

That's understandable when you consider 2 key points.

1. Recordability: There is a record of the interaction

2. Synchrony: The extra time to respond when using email makes it a lesser likely modality for lying. People tend to lie more frequently when they have to respond in real time.

The amount of time you spend where you are completely focused on the person you are interacting with is key.

This is time you spend without the distraction of taking cell phone calls, plucking away on your Blackberry, listening to your mp3, Ipod, ect.

I am referring to the time you spend when you're not multitasking and your focus is on the person you are connecting with.

Without co-presence ( when you are in the same room with the person you are interacting with) and focus, you will never be able to accurately read others or convey your message effectively to others.

Why? It's simple. from our head to our toes, we convey subtle messages that reveal our true inner feelings, belief

1. Recordability: There is a record of the interaction

2. Synchrony: The extra time to respond when using email makes it a lesser likely modality for lying. People tend to lie more frequently when they have to respond in real time.

The amount of time you spend where you are completely focused on the person you are interacting with is key.

This is time you spend without the distraction of taking cell phone calls, plucking away on your Blackberry, listening to your mp3, Ipod, ect.

I am referring to the time you spend when you're not multitasking and your focus is on the person you are connecting with.

Without co-presence ( when you are in the same room with the person you are interacting with) and focus, you will never be able to accurately read others or convey your message effectively to others.

Why? It's simple. from our head to our toes, we convey subtle messages that reveal our true inner feelings, belief

This is time you spend without the distraction of taking cell phone calls, plucking away on your Blackberry, listening to your mp3, Ipod, ect.

I am referring to the time you spend when you're not multitasking and your focus is on the person you are connecting with.

Without co-presence ( when you are in the same room with the person you are interacting with) and focus, you will never be able to accurately read others or convey your message effectively to others.

Why? It's simple. from our head to our toes, we convey subtle messages that reveal our true inner feelings, belief

Without co-presence ( when you are in the same room with the person you are interacting with) and focus, you will never be able to accurately read others or convey your message effectively to others.

Why? It's simple. from our head to our toes, we convey subtle messages that reveal our true inner feelings, beliefs, moods etc...

We can't help it. Our subconscious controls these movements and gestures that for the most part, we are completely unaware we are even doing.

Each gesture , movement and expression reveals more and more about us. You just have to know how to tune in and interpret what the signals mean.

Once you can do this effectively, you are empowered with a skill that less than 1% of people on the planet have. How valuable is this?

I like to use the poker game analogy. It is the equivalent of playing a game of poker where you get to see what everyone has in their hand but they can't see your cards.

It gives you that much of an edge over everyone else. It's really an unfair advantage!

Most of those that seem to outperform everyone else all possess this secret skill. Whether it's the top salesman, the guy/gal who seems to get all the dates, or the happy go lucky person that everybody likes, respects and admires..

Can this skill be taught? Absolutely! Take a moment and see for yourself.