you were, heaven forbid, wrong! You were probably IS-ING. This can be attributed to our love of the verb to be and its other forms, such as, is, am, are, been, was, etc. Of cause there are times when the use of to be is appropriate. If someone asks you the time and the clock says 8:00, well then (assuming that you don’t have a malfunctioning time piece) it is 8:00.

In business however, we should be more open when issuing dictates. It can help in alleviating the, “Who does he/she

Business, what a marvelous thing! It has helped to create a nice lifestyle for many of us. Business can build fortunes and produce great joy, it can also cause monetary problems and produce anxiety as well as sadness and of course it can lead us into every emotion in between.

Why does this invention called business or commerce or whatever moniker you may want to call it so often cause us to be driven into such turmoil?

Certainly money seems to have a lot to do with it. And power, control, expression, inventiveness, goals, vision, trappings, recognition, a desire to help others, and a bunch of other intangibles that also appear to fall into the equation. Depending on your point of view each one of the items I’ve listed has either a positive or negative connotation, or both.

So why does it seem that we spend such an inordinate amount of our time in business trying to figure out how to communicate with other people in order to accomplish what we want?

Maybe it has to do with the way we’ve been conditioned to interact and communicate in the first place.

Perhaps it’s me but I’ve found that many folks have a tendency to need to be in charge. Now, I don’t think that that’s necessarily a bad thing, but what I do sometimes have trouble with originates from the fact that too often the person in charge (and that goes for all levels of management, supervision and so on) tends to direct with statements that are either black or white. If fact we have a tendency to do this throughout our non-business life as well.

Why? Because it may seem easier and creates less of a need to think. When we say something is or something isn’t it becomes absolute. This can lead to a lack of discussion and other opinions, stifle new ideas and suppress the growth and broadening of the corporate culture (and in our home lives as well).

Have you ever insisted upon something, holding your ground firmly, only to find out that you were, heaven forbid, wrong! You were probably IS-ING. This can be attributed to our love of the verb to be and its other forms, such as, is, am, are, been, was, etc. Of cause there are times when the use of to be is appropriate. If someone asks you the time and the clock says 8:00, well then (assuming that you don’t have a malfunctioning time piece) it is 8:00.

In business however, we should be more open when issuing dictates. It can help in alleviating the, “Who does he/she

power, control, expression, inventiveness, goals, vision, trappings, recognition, a desire to help others, and a bunch of other intangibles that also appear to fall into the equation. Depending on your point of view each one of the items I’ve listed has either a positive or negative connotation, or both.

So why does it seem that we spend such an inordinate amount of our time in business trying to figure out how to communicate with other people in order to accomplish what we want?

Maybe it has to do with the way we’ve been conditioned to interact and communicate in the first place.

Perhaps it’s me but I’ve found that many folks have a tendency to need to be in charge. Now, I don’t think that that’s necessarily a bad thing, but what I do sometimes have trouble with originates from the fact that too often the person in charge (and that goes for all levels of management, supervision and so on) tends to direct with statements that are either black or white. If fact we have a tendency to do this throughout our non-business life as well.

Why? Because it may seem easier and creates less of a need to think. When we say something is or something isn’t it becomes absolute. This can lead to a lack of discussion and other opinions, stifle new ideas and suppress the growth and broadening of the corporate culture (and in our home lives as well).

Have you ever insisted upon something, holding your ground firmly, only to find out that you were, heaven forbid, wrong! You were probably IS-ING. This can be attributed to our love of the verb to be and its other forms, such as, is, am, are, been, was, etc. Of cause there are times when the use of to be is appropriate. If someone asks you the time and the clock says 8:00, well then (assuming that you don’t have a malfunctioning time piece) it is 8:00.

In business however, we should be more open when issuing dictates. It can help in alleviating the, “Who does he/she

Maybe it has to do with the way we’ve been conditioned to interact and communicate in the first place.

Perhaps it’s me but I’ve found that many folks have a tendency to need to be in charge. Now, I don’t think that that’s necessarily a bad thing, but what I do sometimes have trouble with originates from the fact that too often the person in charge (and that goes for all levels of management, supervision and so on) tends to direct with statements that are either black or white. If fact we have a tendency to do this throughout our non-business life as well.

Why? Because it may seem easier and creates less of a need to think. When we say something is or something isn’t it becomes absolute. This can lead to a lack of discussion and other opinions, stifle new ideas and suppress the growth and broadening of the corporate culture (and in our home lives as well).

Have you ever insisted upon something, holding your ground firmly, only to find out that you were, heaven forbid, wrong! You were probably IS-ING. This can be attributed to our love of the verb to be and its other forms, such as, is, am, are, been, was, etc. Of cause there are times when the use of to be is appropriate. If someone asks you the time and the clock says 8:00, well then (assuming that you don’t have a malfunctioning time piece) it is 8:00.

In business however, we should be more open when issuing dictates. It can help in alleviating the, “Who does he/she

te. If fact we have a tendency to do this throughout our non-business life as well.

Why? Because it may seem easier and creates less of a need to think. When we say something is or something isn’t it becomes absolute. This can lead to a lack of discussion and other opinions, stifle new ideas and suppress the growth and broadening of the corporate culture (and in our home lives as well).

Have you ever insisted upon something, holding your ground firmly, only to find out that you were, heaven forbid, wrong! You were probably IS-ING. This can be attributed to our love of the verb to be and its other forms, such as, is, am, are, been, was, etc. Of cause there are times when the use of to be is appropriate. If someone asks you the time and the clock says 8:00, well then (assuming that you don’t have a malfunctioning time piece) it is 8:00.

In business however, we should be more open when issuing dictates. It can help in alleviating the, “Who does he/she

you were, heaven forbid, wrong! You were probably IS-ING. This can be attributed to our love of the verb to be and its other forms, such as, is, am, are, been, was, etc. Of cause there are times when the use of to be is appropriate. If someone asks you the time and the clock says 8:00, well then (assuming that you don’t have a malfunctioning time piece) it is 8:00.

In business however, we should be more open when issuing dictates. It can help in alleviating the, “Who does he/she think he/she is?” syndrome. Sure we’re not going to do away with our love for to be totally, we’ve spent our entire lives having an affair with it. However using it in communication obsessively can lead to a demoralized staff, withered creativity and sometimes a lack of credibility.

The boss who keeps saying that, this or that is going to happen, or the person who relays that a co-worker is a jerk, or the salesperson that says the sale is a done deal may wind up regretting their words in the future.

Understanding that those we work with can be affected by our communication should lead us to measure what we say and how we say it. It may behoove the boss to recognize the fact that empty promises could lead to demotivated employees. The co-worker may be better off relating that their colleague acted like a jerk in a particular situation (which might not make him or her an absolute jerk all the time) and the sales person would be better off, for their own sake as well as the company’s, to wait for the signed contract and the check! If they need to report to their manager on their sales progress with the client/prospect it may serve them better to say, “Things seem to be going well”. Even though so many salespeople tend to be optimistic by nature and would just love to count that “sale” in the closed column.

Getting away from the overuse of to be can take you into new territory. It forces you to think, really think about what you want to say. It enables you to forgo generalizations and gives you the ability to create more substantive images and understanding.

Businesses today live, to a large part, on how well the channels of communication function. We may have become overly sensitive to how we interact. Which might be part of a maturing process. However, we have seen that dictates don’t seem to work like they used to and that people react more positively when they are treated with respect and consideration.