Add You - Portrait of an Abuser

Yes, I believe in an higher power. No, I do not attribute my recovery to being “born-again” - as I have known my Creator since birth. That is a beautiful transformation that can wash away all your self-hatred, but mine experience was uniquely mine.

Mine was not an instant occurrence, I have spent as long fixing me as he spent brutalizing and breaking me. Along my journey I learned a lot, who I am, who he was, why and how to break the chains of that co-dependant relationship syndrome.

For the most part the word “abuser” is an anathema, a mental picture of a hulking beast waiting for a chance to pounce - and that is a pretty accurate picture!

We know women fall to the wiles of these men through low self-esteem, Shadow Women wanting to be loved and praised. However, when we take an honest, open look at abusers, they change in our perspective. Not enough to keep us from fearing and loathing them, but a deeper concept of why they abuse.

My abuser was a boy born into abject poverty to a single woman in West Virginia. As the oldest of his six brothers and sisters, he was leaned on as provider and ‘man of the house’, a heavy load for a child of six or seven. There was no welfare system in those times and most people would have rather gone without than ask their “betters” for help. So my abuser walked six miles to a country store to “get” tinned milk for his baby brother. Of course the grocery man knew he was stealing, but had sympathy for the situation.

Mine was not an instant occurrence, I have spent as long fixing me as he spent brutalizing and breaking me. Along my journey I learned a lot, who I am, who he was, why and how to break the chains of that co-dependant relationship syndrome.

For the most part the word “abuser” is an anathema, a mental picture of a hulking beast waiting for a chance to pounce - and that is a pretty accurate picture!

We know women fall to the wiles of these men through low self-esteem, Shadow Women wanting to be loved and praised. However, when we take an honest, open look at abusers, they change in our perspective. Not enough to keep us from fearing and loathing them, but a deeper concept of why they abuse.

My abuser was a boy born into abject poverty to a single woman in West Virginia. As the oldest of his six brothers and sisters, he was leaned on as provider and ‘man of the house’, a heavy load for a child of six or seven. There was no welfare system in those times and most people would have rather gone without than ask their “betters” for help. So my abuser walked six miles to a country store to “get” tinned milk for his baby brother. Of course the grocery man knew he was stealing, but had sympathy for the situation. Public Relations: Converting the Non-Believers
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For the most part the word “abuser” is an anathema, a mental picture of a hulking beast waiting for a chance to pounce - and that is a pretty accurate picture!

We know women fall to the wiles of these men through low self-esteem, Shadow Women wanting to be loved and praised. However, when we take an honest, open look at abusers, they change in our perspective. Not enough to keep us from fearing and loathing them, but a deeper concept of why they abuse.

My abuser was a boy born into abject poverty to a single woman in West Virginia. As the oldest of his six brothers and sisters, he was leaned on as provider and ‘man of the house’, a heavy load for a child of six or seven. There was no welfare system in those times and most people would have rather gone without than ask their “betters” for help. So my abuser walked six miles to a country store to “get” tinned milk for his baby brother. Of course the grocery man knew he was stealing, but had sympathy for the situation. You Will Be Spending Your Money Wisely When You Have Your Cards Designed and Professionally Printed
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My abuser was a boy born into abject poverty to a single woman in West Virginia. As the oldest of his six brothers and sisters, he was leaned on as provider and ‘man of the house’, a heavy load for a child of six or seven. There was no welfare system in those times and most people would have rather gone without than ask their “betters” for help. So my abuser walked six miles to a country store to “get” tinned milk for his baby brother. Of course the grocery man knew he was stealing, but had sympathy for the situation. Is a Fixed Rate Mortgage for You?
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So - here we have a young boy who is forced to be an adult instead of being able to play and have fun. Here, also, is a little boy of malleable age being taught to steal. How do I figure that? His mother taught him by complicity. She knew those tins of milk were stolen, but she had a frail baby to feed. Instead of learning that stealing is wrong - to him it became a noble duty. Add the silent teachings of a grocery clerk who looked the other way, and you have the seed of a thief.

People in that region, hard-working people with nothing often were hard in their hearts. Smack that kid upside the head and teach him something! Yes, teach him to bottle up his rage inside - teach him that passing that fist of rage on to someone else made him feel better. He was not taught that violence is wrong. And this applies to boys in any part of the USA, in ghettos, inner city, even high-end neighborhoods. Then we must factor in that in the era of the 50’s and back to earlier years, women were not a prized package and many considered a smack to the face as nothing more than if you disciplined your dog for getting in the garbage.

Yes, there have been gigantic steps forward in women’s rights and equality, but there still remains that vague “value-system”, especially in poor, uneducated people.

Shadow Men are insecure, think they are nothing. So, in order for a relationship to work, they have beat down the woman’s will until she is submissive - then he sees

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