honeymoon is lost because the fantasy is spoiled. All this comes from having ideologies about people that are not real.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love yo

To deal with self-deceptions and lack of authenticity, our ego invents heroes, ideological heroes (men and women who have no dirty bits). Our ego compares who we are, and who our partner is, to these fantasy people we invented in our reactions to life. So, we start to complain because this lover in front of us is not like the dream we had, the ideal one, with no dirty bits. Those heroes and heroines are invented because they avoid pain. I mean, who would fantasise about a boyfriend or girlfriend who caused us pain? But real people cause us pain. That is a guarantee. They will disappoint us for sure. Many people fall in love with a fantasy, find out the fantasy is not real, and then fall out of love and blame their partner.

Then we say, “I need to trust you” but really we are saying, “I need to see if you are the same as my fantasy”. However, what we don’t know, what the ego doesn’t ever want to know, is that everybody has two sides. We are all made of the same materials. We are not different, just different faces and bodies. So we want to fall in love with a fantasy to make the ego comfortable. Soon after that, if we don’t know how to be authentic, the honeymoon is lost because the fantasy is spoiled. All this comes from having ideologies about people that are not real.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love you

er in front of us is not like the dream we had, the ideal one, with no dirty bits. Those heroes and heroines are invented because they avoid pain. I mean, who would fantasise about a boyfriend or girlfriend who caused us pain? But real people cause us pain. That is a guarantee. They will disappoint us for sure. Many people fall in love with a fantasy, find out the fantasy is not real, and then fall out of love and blame their partner.

Then we say, “I need to trust you” but really we are saying, “I need to see if you are the same as my fantasy”. However, what we don’t know, what the ego doesn’t ever want to know, is that everybody has two sides. We are all made of the same materials. We are not different, just different faces and bodies. So we want to fall in love with a fantasy to make the ego comfortable. Soon after that, if we don’t know how to be authentic, the honeymoon is lost because the fantasy is spoiled. All this comes from having ideologies about people that are not real.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love yo

point us for sure. Many people fall in love with a fantasy, find out the fantasy is not real, and then fall out of love and blame their partner.

Then we say, “I need to trust you” but really we are saying, “I need to see if you are the same as my fantasy”. However, what we don’t know, what the ego doesn’t ever want to know, is that everybody has two sides. We are all made of the same materials. We are not different, just different faces and bodies. So we want to fall in love with a fantasy to make the ego comfortable. Soon after that, if we don’t know how to be authentic, the honeymoon is lost because the fantasy is spoiled. All this comes from having ideologies about people that are not real.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love yo

at the ego doesn’t ever want to know, is that everybody has two sides. We are all made of the same materials. We are not different, just different faces and bodies. So we want to fall in love with a fantasy to make the ego comfortable. Soon after that, if we don’t know how to be authentic, the honeymoon is lost because the fantasy is spoiled. All this comes from having ideologies about people that are not real.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love yo

honeymoon is lost because the fantasy is spoiled. All this comes from having ideologies about people that are not real.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love your parents, you will not find love for yourself or your loved one. Unblocking love for one person is unblocking love for every person and no one affects this equation more than your parents.

Love is to see bad things have good in them, and good things have bad in them. This is real love. Balanced perception. Neither infatuating nor resenting your parents. They become irrelevant, their opinion does not affect you. Then you have truly grown up. Then your relationship with your beloved is not based on reaction to your parents, but on today, romance and true love. This is authenticity, actually turning up ready to be in love. Your parents deserve your love, and this is how you release yourself to be in a sacred relationship. That is the day that trying to please them, worrying about their opinions becomes irrelevant. You love them, you are free. What you give back, is done with love, not obligation or because of their expectations.