how your body feels and noticing your thoughts at any given time, you can change those which do not serve you any more. Using your intuition at the same time is useful. Intuition can be just a knowing, as if a light bulb has just been switched on, an “Aha!” moment. This is a very powerful way of being in your relationship but check that you have it right and you are not making an assumption. All you need to do is ask. Gradually, you will learn to know the difference.

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Mary Martin in the musical South Pacific sang, “… if you don’t have a dream, if I don’t have a dream, how are we going to make a dream come true?” And this is true.

We can use our imagination to go into a deep place inside ourselves and see our relationship how we truly want it to be. At the same time, being aware of how we feel. We can then continue to hold that vision by remembering to go into our imagination and revisit the future we want at any given time. This does take time but it is worth it.

I have found certain roles in a film or play have stood out for me, so I spend time reflecting on what that role is telling me about myself. Other times, I find myself disliking the way someone else is. By reflecting on this, I find that what I see in them is a reflection of a part of me. If I see someone as wonderful, elegant, beautiful, sexy then I am also recognising the parts of myself which are like this person. It is important to recognise that the qualities we see in others, good or bad, are in us.

Sometimes we need to own our not-so-nice sides in order to find our wonderful sides so that we can be the best we can be. Angry feelings can leak out unconsciously if we deny our angry part. If we own it, then we can consciously control it by going to the gym or by saying, “I feel angry when you do ….…… and I would prefer it if you did ……….” We cannot control our loved one but we can control ourselves. The worst memory for me is my anger leaking out unconsciously at my children. I loved them, so why would I be so angry? I may have been cross with them for something they did or said but nothing they did warranted the level of anger that they experienced.

As we see our loved one as loving and caring, etc, we are recognising this in ourselves too and we become even more loving and caring, etc. As we point our finger at our loved ones, we have three pointing back at us. I think it was Ghandi who said something like, what we see is who we are.

Remember, we are more than our bodies, feelings and mind. If you aspire to act and speak from your centre or your heart all the time, you will be true to yourself. By using your awareness of who you truly are, recognising your emotions, how your body feels and noticing your thoughts at any given time, you can change those which do not serve you any more. Using your intuition at the same time is useful. Intuition can be just a knowing, as if a light bulb has just been switched on, an “Aha!” moment. This is a very powerful way of being in your relationship but check that you have it right and you are not making an assumption. All you need to do is ask. Gradually, you will learn to know the difference.

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ay have stood out for me, so I spend time reflecting on what that role is telling me about myself. Other times, I find myself disliking the way someone else is. By reflecting on this, I find that what I see in them is a reflection of a part of me. If I see someone as wonderful, elegant, beautiful, sexy then I am also recognising the parts of myself which are like this person. It is important to recognise that the qualities we see in others, good or bad, are in us.

Sometimes we need to own our not-so-nice sides in order to find our wonderful sides so that we can be the best we can be. Angry feelings can leak out unconsciously if we deny our angry part. If we own it, then we can consciously control it by going to the gym or by saying, “I feel angry when you do ….…… and I would prefer it if you did ……….” We cannot control our loved one but we can control ourselves. The worst memory for me is my anger leaking out unconsciously at my children. I loved them, so why would I be so angry? I may have been cross with them for something they did or said but nothing they did warranted the level of anger that they experienced.

As we see our loved one as loving and caring, etc, we are recognising this in ourselves too and we become even more loving and caring, etc. As we point our finger at our loved ones, we have three pointing back at us. I think it was Ghandi who said something like, what we see is who we are.

Remember, we are more than our bodies, feelings and mind. If you aspire to act and speak from your centre or your heart all the time, you will be true to yourself. By using your awareness of who you truly are, recognising your emotions, how your body feels and noticing your thoughts at any given time, you can change those which do not serve you any more. Using your intuition at the same time is useful. Intuition can be just a knowing, as if a light bulb has just been switched on, an “Aha!” moment. This is a very powerful way of being in your relationship but check that you have it right and you are not making an assumption. All you need to do is ask. Gradually, you will learn to know the difference.

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so that we can be the best we can be. Angry feelings can leak out unconsciously if we deny our angry part. If we own it, then we can consciously control it by going to the gym or by saying, “I feel angry when you do ….…… and I would prefer it if you did ……….” We cannot control our loved one but we can control ourselves. The worst memory for me is my anger leaking out unconsciously at my children. I loved them, so why would I be so angry? I may have been cross with them for something they did or said but nothing they did warranted the level of anger that they experienced.

As we see our loved one as loving and caring, etc, we are recognising this in ourselves too and we become even more loving and caring, etc. As we point our finger at our loved ones, we have three pointing back at us. I think it was Ghandi who said something like, what we see is who we are.

Remember, we are more than our bodies, feelings and mind. If you aspire to act and speak from your centre or your heart all the time, you will be true to yourself. By using your awareness of who you truly are, recognising your emotions, how your body feels and noticing your thoughts at any given time, you can change those which do not serve you any more. Using your intuition at the same time is useful. Intuition can be just a knowing, as if a light bulb has just been switched on, an “Aha!” moment. This is a very powerful way of being in your relationship but check that you have it right and you are not making an assumption. All you need to do is ask. Gradually, you will learn to know the difference.

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t they experienced.

As we see our loved one as loving and caring, etc, we are recognising this in ourselves too and we become even more loving and caring, etc. As we point our finger at our loved ones, we have three pointing back at us. I think it was Ghandi who said something like, what we see is who we are.

Remember, we are more than our bodies, feelings and mind. If you aspire to act and speak from your centre or your heart all the time, you will be true to yourself. By using your awareness of who you truly are, recognising your emotions, how your body feels and noticing your thoughts at any given time, you can change those which do not serve you any more. Using your intuition at the same time is useful. Intuition can be just a knowing, as if a light bulb has just been switched on, an “Aha!” moment. This is a very powerful way of being in your relationship but check that you have it right and you are not making an assumption. All you need to do is ask. Gradually, you will learn to know the difference.

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how your body feels and noticing your thoughts at any given time, you can change those which do not serve you any more. Using your intuition at the same time is useful. Intuition can be just a knowing, as if a light bulb has just been switched on, an “Aha!” moment. This is a very powerful way of being in your relationship but check that you have it right and you are not making an assumption. All you need to do is ask. Gradually, you will learn to know the difference.

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