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Add You - If They Would Only Do It My Way
If you have ever simply watched people at work you will find that many often come in late or miss work entirely for days on end. We may be able to draw a connection in our reasoning that says all these people showing up 10 minutes late can add up to lots of lost revenue for the company. The problem is how to control attendance issues and still treat everyone fairly?A CCH study on unexcused absenteeism indicates that 83% of employers feel that unexcused absenteeism will continue to rise. The problem is that absenteeism costs have been growing which now range around $800 per employee per year. It doesn’t seem like much but when this cost is multiplied by 10 or 20 employees the numbers speak for themselves.
~Oscar Wilde
Try-its:
To eradicate ourselves of self centeredness we have to first accept what we are powerless over:
1. Write a list of at least 25 people, places, things and situations that you are powerless over.
2. Review your list
3. Let the people, places, things and situations go. If you belong to a religious group give your list to your God and let him handle the list for you.
For instance, I have no control of the situation when my son drives his car. He is 19. I'm not in the car with him. I can't navigate the road for him. I can't push cars out of the way if someone gets distracted and sways into his lane. I've handed that situation to a higher being, I know ot
Trade-marking your company name and logo can pay dividends down the road. A logo design trademark can prevent competitors from infringing on your brand name and identity. It can also protect your own company from accusations of logo design infringement. This article addresses some of the key trade-marking issues of logo design, as it’s a topic that many businesses will come across.Trade-marking a logo design can be a complicated process. Because of the many other companies the registrar will have to compare your logo against, the process will often be time-consuming. There is always a certain amount of subjectivity involved in making the comparisons, and it often depends on the type of industry you’re in. Soft
This occurs all the time in families, offices, business deals, friendships and teams. You, the director, KNOW how it should go if only everyone would do it YOUR way.
People use a variety of tactics to convince others to do things their way. Guilt, rewards, punishments, praise, begging, and so on.
Everything works sometimes, and you convince yourself that you have 'the power' to have people follow your plan and your script, except when your actors don't follow your plan, then the director (you) gets angry, frustrated, stressed, and lonely. Sometimes a director may tell himself that he isn't good enough, that he doesn't don't know what he is doing, that he is a failure. He takes personal responsibility for the outcome by inflicting emotional pain on himself. Other times a director may blame everyone else. She may say that everyone else is the cause of the problem. She had nothing to do with it. She had the perfect plan. Her plan was the best and if only everyone followed her way than there wouldn't be a problem.
Sometimes you may be treated as the actor in someone else's play. If you didn't agree to be a participant you may find yourself feeling resentful, put upon, victimized, threatened, and rebellious. Your behavior may be passive aggressive (smiling on the outside but sabotaging the production with your attitude or actions).
As leaders, managers, parents and team members it is important to realize that 1- everyone has a choice, 2- everyone has their own plan, 3- everyone is the director of their own perception of the world.
The clash occurs when you expect everyone to follow your directions/orders/demands and they don't see the benefits or rational behind it or the "what is in it for me" factor.
We humans are self-centered, it is how we are. We have to decide to 'think' of others and not be so engrossed in our selves and our own affairs, easier said then done.
How can we get out of our self-centeredness and be better managers, leaders and parents? This is what this article is all about.
Quotes
"When I get out of 'me' and find 'we' I become more successful"
"The one important thing I have learned over the years is the difference between taking one's work seriously and taking one's self seriously. The first is imperative and the second is disastrous".
~Margot Fonteyn
Self-interest is the enemy of all true affection.
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
"It's hard to follow God closely when your eyes are focused on everyone else around you."
~Unknown
"When an organism begins to become self-centered, taking only in regard to its own needs and ignoring those of its neighbor, we call it cancer."
~Ra Bonawitz
"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
~Oscar Wilde
Try-its:
To eradicate ourselves of self centeredness we have to first accept what we are powerless over:
1. Write a list of at least 25 people, places, things and situations that you are powerless over.
2. Review your list
3. Let the people, places, things and situations go. If you belong to a religious group give your list to your God and let him handle the list for you.
For instance, I have no control of the situation when my son drives his car. He is 19. I'm not in the car with him. I can't navigate the road for him. I can't push cars out of the way if someone gets distracted and sways into his lane. I've handed that situation to a higher being, I know oth
It’s likely that you’ve probably never taken the time to sit back and consider vending machines. In fact, you have probably never taken the chance to contemplate the history of vending machines. After all who would? I know I didn’t, until I wrote this article and found the history to be surprisingly……well, fascinating. The next time you stop at a vending machine and purchase your favorite sweet, cold soda or that big caramel candy bar you’ll remember that even a vending machine is full of history.What is Vending?Vending is automatic retailing. Basically a vending machine allows someone to sell their products when he or she is not present to supervise the sales. It is really quite an ingeniou
Sometimes you may be treated as the actor in someone else's play. If you didn't agree to be a participant you may find yourself feeling resentful, put upon, victimized, threatened, and rebellious. Your behavior may be passive aggressive (smiling on the outside but sabotaging the production with your attitude or actions).
As leaders, managers, parents and team members it is important to realize that 1- everyone has a choice, 2- everyone has their own plan, 3- everyone is the director of their own perception of the world.
The clash occurs when you expect everyone to follow your directions/orders/demands and they don't see the benefits or rational behind it or the "what is in it for me" factor.
We humans are self-centered, it is how we are. We have to decide to 'think' of others and not be so engrossed in our selves and our own affairs, easier said then done.
How can we get out of our self-centeredness and be better managers, leaders and parents? This is what this article is all about.
Quotes
"When I get out of 'me' and find 'we' I become more successful"
"The one important thing I have learned over the years is the difference between taking one's work seriously and taking one's self seriously. The first is imperative and the second is disastrous".
~Margot Fonteyn
Self-interest is the enemy of all true affection.
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
"It's hard to follow God closely when your eyes are focused on everyone else around you."
~Unknown
"When an organism begins to become self-centered, taking only in regard to its own needs and ignoring those of its neighbor, we call it cancer."
~Ra Bonawitz
"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
~Oscar Wilde
Try-its:
To eradicate ourselves of self centeredness we have to first accept what we are powerless over:
1. Write a list of at least 25 people, places, things and situations that you are powerless over.
2. Review your list
3. Let the people, places, things and situations go. If you belong to a religious group give your list to your God and let him handle the list for you.
For instance, I have no control of the situation when my son drives his car. He is 19. I'm not in the car with him. I can't navigate the road for him. I can't push cars out of the way if someone gets distracted and sways into his lane. I've handed that situation to a higher being, I know ot
If you are just starting out in construction, the process of bidding may be a little confusing. When you are drawing up an estimate, you are basically calculating the total expense of the project you want to bid on. It is important that you remember to include all expenses and allow for unforeseen expenses that may crop up. When you estimate a job, you need to stay as close to the estimate as possible.This is very important because if you do not estimate properly, and ask the client for more money to complete the project he or she will undoubtedly become angry. The contractor will loose money in the end. On the other hand, if you over estimate then the client will most likely choose a lower bid.This mak
As leaders, managers, parents and team members it is important to realize that 1- everyone has a choice, 2- everyone has their own plan, 3- everyone is the director of their own perception of the world.
The clash occurs when you expect everyone to follow your directions/orders/demands and they don't see the benefits or rational behind it or the "what is in it for me" factor.
We humans are self-centered, it is how we are. We have to decide to 'think' of others and not be so engrossed in our selves and our own affairs, easier said then done.
How can we get out of our self-centeredness and be better managers, leaders and parents? This is what this article is all about.
Quotes
"When I get out of 'me' and find 'we' I become more successful"
"The one important thing I have learned over the years is the difference between taking one's work seriously and taking one's self seriously. The first is imperative and the second is disastrous".
~Margot Fonteyn
Self-interest is the enemy of all true affection.
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
"It's hard to follow God closely when your eyes are focused on everyone else around you."
~Unknown
"When an organism begins to become self-centered, taking only in regard to its own needs and ignoring those of its neighbor, we call it cancer."
~Ra Bonawitz
"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
~Oscar Wilde
Try-its:
To eradicate ourselves of self centeredness we have to first accept what we are powerless over:
1. Write a list of at least 25 people, places, things and situations that you are powerless over.
2. Review your list
3. Let the people, places, things and situations go. If you belong to a religious group give your list to your God and let him handle the list for you.
For instance, I have no control of the situation when my son drives his car. He is 19. I'm not in the car with him. I can't navigate the road for him. I can't push cars out of the way if someone gets distracted and sways into his lane. I've handed that situation to a higher being, I know ot
What are the most frequently cited serious violations of the concrete and masonry standard? The following are OSHA’s top four followed by suggestions and protective measures you can use to make your jobsites safe.1) Failure to protect employees from impalement - rebar not capped or covered. Make sure that all rebar is capped/covered with an approved protective device designed for this purpose such as the hard plastic mushroom type caps which are designed to fit various sizes of rebar. Plastic or paper cups, orange traffic cones or tape are not acceptable means of protection. Prevent or limit your employees from working in areas where they could fall into or onto rebar. If this is not possible, limit empl
Quotes
"When I get out of 'me' and find 'we' I become more successful"
"The one important thing I have learned over the years is the difference between taking one's work seriously and taking one's self seriously. The first is imperative and the second is disastrous".
~Margot Fonteyn
Self-interest is the enemy of all true affection.
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
"It's hard to follow God closely when your eyes are focused on everyone else around you."
~Unknown
"When an organism begins to become self-centered, taking only in regard to its own needs and ignoring those of its neighbor, we call it cancer."
~Ra Bonawitz
"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
~Oscar Wilde
Try-its:
To eradicate ourselves of self centeredness we have to first accept what we are powerless over:
1. Write a list of at least 25 people, places, things and situations that you are powerless over.
2. Review your list
3. Let the people, places, things and situations go. If you belong to a religious group give your list to your God and let him handle the list for you.
For instance, I have no control of the situation when my son drives his car. He is 19. I'm not in the car with him. I can't navigate the road for him. I can't push cars out of the way if someone gets distracted and sways into his lane. I've handed that situation to a higher being, I know ot
The job of pharmacy technicians is usually a well rewarded one. With the increase in diseases and hospitals, pharmaceuticals industry has had an unprecedented boom and pharmacy technicians enjoy a large part of that boom. Pharmacy technicians have wide opportunities. They have openings for both part time and full time jobs.Technicians in any field are recognized only if they hold a relevant certificate. The pharmacy technicians are not an exception. Especially, people who hold a technician certificate and who have prior experience in the same field always have excellent opportunities.The demand for pharmacy technicians will increase with more new pharmacy shops coming in the market. Mostly these technic
~Oscar Wilde
Try-its:
To eradicate ourselves of self centeredness we have to first accept what we are powerless over:
1. Write a list of at least 25 people, places, things and situations that you are powerless over.
2. Review your list
3. Let the people, places, things and situations go. If you belong to a religious group give your list to your God and let him handle the list for you.
For instance, I have no control of the situation when my son drives his car. He is 19. I'm not in the car with him. I can't navigate the road for him. I can't push cars out of the way if someone gets distracted and sways into his lane. I've handed that situation to a higher being, I know others who have faith knowing that all is well and let it go.
I do not have control over my clients. I'm not sitting in their offices 24/7 guiding their decisions. I've given all the information I can for them to make a decision. Ultimately it is their decision based on all the information that they know (and I don't). I have to let it go.
Kick-butt actions:
Here are some questions to ask yourself when you find yourself trying to direct uncooperative people:
• How important is it REALLY to have the person do this task?
• What are the rewards and consequences for the person? (Be clear and communicate those)
• Can you, and more importantly, will you follow through on the rewards and consequences? If not, don't talk about them. If you don t follow through you will sabotage yourself by losing credibility.
• Are there actions you want them to do OR do you want a specific outcome and the action doesn't really matter.
If friction arises be prepared to ask yourself:
• What role did you play in this?
• What was your responsibility?
• What can you do to make this situation right?
• Do you need to apologize for your self centeredness or human frailty?
• What will you do differently next time?
Remember we are all just players (actors) in this theatre of life. As a director/leader your job is to:
• Inspire
• Educate
• Coach
• Correct
• Celebrate
• Speak specifically regarding expectations and accountably.
If you do not have these conversations and chaos and friction will be the result.
Taking control and being in control are two different sides of the same coin. One is the beginnings of leadership the other can lead to the illusion that you ARE in control of people, places things and situations. Ultimately you are only in control of your own actions, thoughts, behaviors. So are you a director creating chaos or a leader inspiring a team effort?
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